The ideal parents in a kid’s eyes are parents who, never say no to them, give them all the money and things that they want, cook really good, love them, respect them, care about them, spend time with them and do nice things for them regularly.
The ideal kid in parents’ eyes is one who, never says no to them, gives them all the money and things that they want, cooks really good, loves them, respects them, cares about them, spends time with them and does nice things for them regularly.
Ideal parents and kids don’t exist. If there were ideal parents and kids they wouldn’t have any conflicts in their house and everything would be perfect. Real parents and kids exist not ideal parents and kids. They have conflicts, they don’t always get what they want and everything isn’t perfect. The reason why I’m doing this series is because there are real parents and kids who have conflicts and I want to be able to help some families to get closer to that ideal. I know that the ideal will never be completely obtained but you can come closer to it.
The ideals for both the parents and kids are the same, what you want out of your kids are exactly what they want out of you. The best way to get closer to the ideal parent/child relationship is to look in the mirror and think what you can do to become closer to the ideal parent. Some of those things can’t be done, you will never be able to give your kids everything they want and some people just aren’t good cooks, there are some things that you can’t allow your kids to do and you need to say no but you should never say no just because you want to show your authority over them. Then there are the things that you can always do such as love them, respect them, care about them, spend time with them and do nice things for them.
The best way to better your relationship is to try to get yourself closer to that ideal instead of trying to get your kids closer to that ideal. If you change yourself your kids will see the difference and then they will start to change even if they don’t think that they are changing. When you become closer to that ideal your kids will take note and change as well. They to will become closer to that ideal and because of that there will be less conflict which means there will be a better relationship between you and your child.
Into the Unknown 
Very well put. So what happens when you do all of these things and your kids still don’t change? Billy Graham was as close to ideal as he could be, but Franklin still rebelled. I think there’s a strong need for connection with the kid as well. They may see you as an ideal, but without a heart bond, it won’t amount to much.